Friday, March 15, 2013

About me. Five years in the making.

Five years ago:

“I’m twenty-five years old. I consider a Grande Skinny Caramel Latte from Starbucks to be a well-balanced breakfast. I’m a Weight Watchers lifetime member. I’ve been married for five years. I live in southern California. I find myself extremely creative but am still waiting to see if I have any real talent. I find it impossible to spend less than $50 at Target. I love to watch TV and consider the DVR to be one of man’s greatest inventions. I am totally inconsistent. I’m a photographer… trapped inside the body of an administrative assistant. I don’t like people. I love tequila. I love to watch movies. I can’t live without chocolate. I’m eleven years younger than The Husband. I’m afraid of everything and I desperately want people to find me interesting.”

Five years! A lot has happened in five years and I feel the need to dissect the hell out of that paragraph. Humor me.

“I’m twenty-five years old.” Twenty-five? Holy hell, that sounds young. I’m thirty now (obvi) and the only thing I’ve learned in the last five years is that I never want to be twenty-five again. Okay, that’s not the only thing I’ve learned, but close.

“I consider a Grande Skinny Caramel Latte from Starbucks to be a well-balanced breakfast.” Now it’s a Grande Toffee Nut Latte. With 2% milk. Because non-fat tastes like ass.

“I’m a Weight Watchers lifetime member.” This sentence makes me want to cry. And then jump off the 19th floor. Because I was there! I had done it! I had lost the weight and achieved my goal and I was thin! WHY DID I GO AND FUCK IT ALL UP!?

“I’ve been married for five years.” We made it to seven. And now I’m single.

“I live in southern California.” Yep. Still true. I’ve gone absolutely nowhere.

“I find myself extremely creative but am still waiting to see if I have any real talent.” I had so many fun hobbies while I was married. Baking, taking pictures, writing, being generally crafty. I had the space and the resources for it. Once I filed for divorce, my whole life changed. Now? I only dream of baking and most pictures I take are with my cell phone.

“I find it impossible to spend less than $50 at Target.” Yes.

“I love to watch TV and consider the DVR to be one of man’s greatest inventions.” I no longer own a TV and the only thing I watch is Pitch Perfect over and over and over. Because BEST MOVIE EVER.

“I am totally inconsistent.”

“I’m a photographer… trapped inside the body of an administrative assistant.” I’m an administrative assistant again. But this time in a department where I’m the minority and I don’t understand anyone! Fun!

“I don’t like people.” I really don’t.

“I love tequila.” Love? Love? Such a profession only comes with the immaturity of a 25-year-old. I like tequila. I despise Fireball whiskey.

“I love to watch movies.” I really do. Especially when I’m having particularly bad anxiety. Bad anxiety… something I didn’t have when I was 25.

“I can’t live without chocolate.” Some things haven’t changed and never will.

“I’m eleven years younger than The Husband.” There’s no longer a husband.

“I’m afraid of everything and I desperately want people to find me interesting.” I really am afraid of everything, but if you don’t find me interesting… that’s fine.

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Sunday, February 17, 2013

An adventure

Yes, an adventure. And one I took all by myself. Which isn’t saying much except that I lost cell coverage during most of it so obviously it was extremely dangerous.

Last Sunday I was on my way home from visiting my sister when I decided to detour to Lake Mead. On all the drives to and from my sister’s home in Utah, during all the visits to Vegas, I had never once seen Lake Mead. It didn’t look like it was too far out of the way so what the hell? That’s my motto most days. What the hell. It’s the more sarcastic and disinterested version of “you only live once.”

What was supposed to be a “quick” detour to visit a lake turned into a four hour drive through a state park, then a national park, a visit to the lake, and, finally, a stop at Hoover Dam. None of which I’d ever seen before.

I was posting (less than stellar) photos on Facebook along the way. And no one seemed to care. And when I say “no one” I mean my mother. My mother didn’t care! Her daughter- who, sure, may be thirty, but still!- was driving alone through the wilderness! With no cell coverage! And a car that was in desperate need of new brakes! (The brakes thing might have been my own fault and has since been rectified, I’m happy to report.)

When I brought it up and asked how she could possibly not care about the harm that could befall her (30-year-old) baby in the wild, she argued that my Facebook posts hadn’t been clear. And when I explained in more detail about just what an adventure I had been on, she replied with, “wow, how boring.”

My mother would only survive the same adventure if someone else were driving and she were able keep Facebook-ing. (No, seriously, that’s what she does now. She sits in the passenger seat with her laptop on her, well, lap and Facebooks.) I, on the otherhand, enjoyed the peace of (at times) being the only person around for miles with only Mumford & Sons to keep me company. (If I’d gone on the same adventure a month ago, my only company would have been Taylor Swift.)

I arrived home that night after driving for what felt like forever but was really only 10 hours. (10 hours!) I was in a weird state of exhaustion where my body was in desperate need of sleep while my mind was wide awake and ready to tell whomever would listen all about my adventure. Unfortunately, I think I’m the only one who really considered it an “adventure” at all. Apparently, to the masses, I did some sight-seeing on my way home NO BIG DEAL.

And honest? It really wasn’t a big deal. Except that it was probably the first real spontaneous thing I’ve done alone and just for me since you know. And my mom and I aren’t very similar and I had a blast. The end.

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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

The woes and wonders of weight loss

Yeah, I was serious about that whole resolution thing. I know, you probably read that post and thought, “Really? Another commitment? Another something you WON’T FINISH?” and you know what? I’m not gonna hold that against you. ‘Cause I get it! I do! I am the Queen of Never Finishing Anything I Start Land. And that “I’m serious about losing weight” post was just one of many I’ve written over the months.

However. I was serious about being serious. And on January 12th, at the ass crack of 7:30am (which really isn’t that bad, I know, but still! It’s a Saturday for crying out loud!) I enrolled and attended my first Weight Watchers meeting in I don’t know how long. Yep. I’m back. And at $43 bucks a month, I better damn well lose some effing weight.

What I love about Weight Watchers:
1. I love that you can eat whatever you want
2. I love being surrounded by other people like me
3. You know… fatties
4. And I even love weighing in each week
5. Because it holds me accountable
6. And now I stop and think about what I’m putting in my mouth
7. That’s what she said

What I hate about Weight Watchers:
1. I hate weighing in each week because it’s kinda embarrassing
2. And you feel the need to make excuses about your weight
3. Whether you gain, stay the same, or even lose… but just not that much
4. And the old people tend to ramble on about nothing
5. And there’s a lot of old people in these meetings
6. But they’re usually super nice so I guess it’s not that bad
7. And, damn it, I want to eat more

I’m not gonna do another “that’s what she said” joke. You’re welcome.

The hardest thing I’ve found so far? Other than the ridiculous craving for pudding? ANY KIND OF PUDDING? The whole going out to eat thing. Of which I do a lot. Like, a lot a lot. Like, the first week? I went out to dinner FIVE NIGHTS IN A ROW. I don’t mean to do this. It’s detrimental to my waistline and my wallet. But there it is. I go out to eat. All I can do is try to make the smartest, healthiest decisions possible. And track. Tracking your points is a big effing deal in Weight Watchers.

So, I ask for nutrition info and I calculate the points for things before I order. And, yes, this means my dining companions (well, companion actually; there’s usually just the one) has to wait until I’ve figure out my shit. But it’s cool. He’s supportive. And that’s the most important thing. Surrounding yourself with people who support you and cheer you on. And promise you gifts and stuff. (I need more people promising me gifts.)

Eventually I’ll be all “look how much I’ve lost!” but not just yet. It’s still too new. I’m still too close to that horrifying number that starts with a two. But know this, peeps.

This. Shit. Is. Happening.

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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Matchy matchy book covers

Have you ever noticed matching book covers? I was in Walmart one night and stopped to pick up a book that I thought I had read before. (Why was I picking up a book I’d already read? Because I loved it so much I just wanted to hold it in my hands and look at it and maybe sniff it a little.) Turned out it wasn’t my book at all but a completely different one with THE EXACT SAME COVER.

Ever since then, I notice this phenomenon all the time.

This is the cover of Onyx (which my BFF calls “alien twilight”):

Onyx

And this is the cover of Significance:

Significance

YOU SEE WHAT’S GOING ON HERE, RIGHT?

Onyx + Significance

These authors. They think they’re so clever.

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Wednesday, January 2, 2013

My new year’s resolution.

Yeah, I made one. Me, the girl who never finished anything she starts.

Except that I do. Finish things, that is. Maybe not many things, and maybe very rarely, but I do. Case in point: reading. I have committed to and completed the last two Goodreads reading challenges. Now maybe you’re thinking psshht, that’s easy! Especially for someone who reads away her every wakeful hour, but STILL. I finished them. And I’m going to finish this year’s reading challenge, too. Even though this new job keeps me busier than ever and I still go out way too often. Consider it done.

Back to my resolution, which should be called a revolution ‘cause shit’s about to change ‘round here.

Peeps, here it is. My 2013 resolution is to, get this, eat healthier and LOSE. WEIGHT.

Okay, I know what you’re thinking. (I often believe I know what you’re thinking.) I’ve been saying I’m going to lose weight for, like, ever. And do I? Obviously not. But this is it. This is for real. This is serious. And exciting. And about damn time.

Oh, I know it’s going to be hard. I’ve been here and done this and I’m no stranger to struggling with my weight. I’ve been successful in some areas (once upon a time I did get it off) and unsuccessful in others (it didn’t stay off) (obvi).

But that’s all about to change. My habits are going to change. My way of thinking is going to change. My caloric intake is definitely going to change. And for fuck’s sake, peeps, my weight is going to change. As in plummet. As in I’m not even kidding.

This means you’re all in for a real treat. Regular weight loss updates are in your future. You’re welcome.

So, who else made a resolution for the new year? Come on, tell me all about it.

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Friday, December 21, 2012

Real, live letters to Santa

Don’t ask me how I got these. I’m sure that I’ll get fired for posting them. (Which means you didn’t have to ask me at all. You just had to wait for me to say I GOT THEM AT WORK.)

Santa Letters 1

Santa Letters 2

Santa Letters 3

Piggy Smalls. Come on, that’s good stuff right there.

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Wednesday, December 12, 2012

12

An unimpressive list on a most impressive day. Sorta.

I couldn’t possibly let such a significant milestone go by with only a short tweet to commemorate. And, yes, “short tweet” is redundant.

Today, peeps, is 12/12/12. And not only that! It’s my 12th anniversary. At work, that is. We all know I won’t be seeing a 12th wedding anniversary any time soon.

A lot has happened in the last 12 years. Since I was a wee babe of just 18. With my whole life ahead of me. And with that lead in, I present to you 12 Significant and Not-So-Significant Moments From the Last 12 Years on My 12th Anniversary on the 12th Day of the 12th Month of the 12th Year.

(2012th year just didn’t sound as good.)

1. Started a job. My first real, adult job.

2. Met a guy and lost my V card. (Yes, I just used the term “V card.” How mature am I?)

3. Moved. And not just out of my parents house (but, yeah, that too) (God, those were the days) but away away. Like 8 hour drive away.

4. Got a tattoo.

5. Got married.

6. Moved again, this time back to my home town, and had cats.

7. Started a blog. (Moved blogs. Stopped blogging. Started again. Moved again. And again. Blah blah blah.)

8. Read Twilight and was never the same.

9. Got divorced. (This could easily be significant moments 6-12 all on its own.)

10. Joined Goodreads and read some books. And read some more. And spent way too much money on said books. I freaking love to read.

11. Started a list of 12 significant moments of my adult life and realized I couldn’t come up with that many significant moments. And was sad.

12. Contemplated the meaning of life and the meaning of me being in a job, that was not and still is not supposed to be my career, for such a long period of time.

13. Realized I have no interest in delving into such a deep, potentially (likely) depressing topic that would require me to look at myself and all the things I’ve done wrong over the last 12 years and The End.

Still… 12 on 12/12/12. It’s worth buying a lotto ticket on the way home.

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Monday, December 10, 2012

Undeniable by Madeline Sheehan

Not really a review ’cause I don’t really say anything nice about it except that it’s really, really good.

I have a problem. And, no, this isn’t, thank goodness, another post about blogging. (Although it might turn into a post about comma abuse.) (Which can be a serious problem.) No, I have a problem with poorly designed book covers. All that swirly text… and in all caps no less. It’s painful to look at. (I’m an e-book reader, hence no covers. Still.)

So, I did something kind of embarrassing and, well, just fixed it a little. IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL.

I mean, it’s still practically the same! It’s just… well, it’s better, okay? There. I said it. Of course, one person’s “better” is another person’s “not so much,” but to them I say YOU’RE WRONG.

Anyway, I just finished reading this book. And I wanted to write some sort of something about it, but I just kept getting stuck on all that ugly. (Yeah, the crazy really has taken over.)

This book, though… holy fuck, was it ever hard to read. Entertaining as hell, but painful. Heartbreaking. Gross. Infuriating. And a whole bunch of other adjectives. I should have known better. The reviews all told me how gritty and dark and disturbing it was, but did I listen? Of course not.

And I gotta admit it. I thoroughly enjoyed myself. Then again, I’m not easily offended by cursing, name-calling, cheating, rape, etc… in books, that is. Real life? Well, I’m still not offended by the cursing, but those other things? Yeah, I could probably get my panties in quite a twist over most of it. Especially the rape. Yes, rape. (Did I mention this book was painful to read at times?)

It’s a love story… just a really fucked up one. And, like, the hero and heroine? They’re both totally fucked up, too. And so is their lifestyle. And all their friends. And the whole time you’re thinking about how fucked up everyone is! But you can’t stop reading ’cause it’s just so good.

Dumbest quote of the book that I actually highlighted so I’d remember to share ’cause it made me scoff and roll my eyes: “Watching Deuce orgasm was absolutely beautiful. Aurora Borealis kind of beautiful.” To which I say, chick, no man’s “o” face is that awesome.

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Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Pitch Perfect

Pitch Perfect 400px

I went to see Pitch Perfect last night at the dollar theater. Again. (Even though it was kinda late and the dollar theater is kinda ghetto and I’m kinda nervous about being mugged or worse there.) Leaving, I had an idea to make a list of all the best worst movies I love. I think I was confused by all the singing and dancing which tends to be prime “best worst movie” material, but then I caught myself thinking again about how much I freaking loved it and finally realized that the most awesome movie ever doesn’t belong on a “best worst” list. It belongs on the best movie ever list which wouldn’t even be a list ’cause it’d just have this one movie. I tend to be a bit of a sucker for singing and dancing. Throw a love story into the mix and I’m sold. Yeah. I know. I’m easy. That’s when my all consuming love of this movie just plain ruined the best worst movie list idea. The end.

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Monday, December 3, 2012

Once more with feeling.

I believe everyone is in possession of some obsessive-compulsive tendencies. Some worse than others. Some padded cell worse than others. I’m not sure where on the severity scale mine fall, but I do know that they all seem to come out through my blog. The name, the appearance, the posts themselves. It’s something that’s gotten progressively worse the longer I blog.

It’s the reason for all the moves, all the changes. It’s the reason I quit blogging. It’s the reason I decided to not quit blogging. It’s the reason I decided to start over. Hence the deletion of all content. (Yes. Deleted.) It’s pretty much the cause of of all my angst. Okay, not all (I have a lot), but most. I’ve let what was supposed to be fun completely ruin my life. (And apparently cause me to be completely over-dramatic.)

So, I’m starting over. This is post one. This is me throwing caution to the wind. This is me holding both middle fingers up in the air with a sneer to rival Johnny Cash and saying “fuck you, world!” Although I’m not sure why it calls for the double-finger salute. Or the F word. But trust me. It does.

I want to have fun blogging like I did when I first started. I want to not care if my posts are perfect (which they’re not) or if people will love them (which they may or may not). I just want to have fun. (And be repetitive at will.) (And abuse parenthesis.)

This is the one and only time I’m going to talk about blogging. As soon as I hit publish, I’m letting go of all the angst. (Well, not all. I live at home with my folks after all.) I’m going to loosen up, have fun, and just write. Silly stuff. Serious stuff. Stuff about books (of which I read dirty nasty ones) and weight loss (of which I need to participate) and whatever else strikes my fancy (of which I’m not even sure what a “fancy” is).

I’m going to take my own advice and Just. Fucking. Relax. And maybe pop a Xanax to help me do so.

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